Life changes quickly at times. It also changes gradually as we live our lives. So gradually that we might not even realize this as fact.

For a while I’ve been thinking of writing a blog entry on the people who have made a huge impact on my life. Some of those are readily identified and others are more obscured. We change due to not only people, but also events. The small ones as well as the major events.

To me the events are, at times, easier to identify than the people. Getting married, having our son … these were huge positive events in my life. Then there are the more difficult events, having 2 children die, losing my father, watching my mother-in-law battle Alzheimer’s for years and finally lose. These were events that helped shape me, to change me.

Then there are events that many might classify as negative, but turned into a positive. The biggest example for me is that pesky little “massive heart attack” I had on a fateful Saturday in 2007. Most would say that was a negative event, but I would argue (rather loudly) that it had the lead part in a major change in my life …… my heart transplant ……. it caused me to take a different path, that has led me to meet some very fascinating people, learn things I didn’t know about, to create new friends and find some old ones, to live life in a more complete manner than ever in my life.

I have friends that I have never met in person, yet I read their words on the screen and I connect with them. I read their wonderful blogs, emails or connect with them on organ transplant forums, like TransplantBuddies. They have prayed for my family, and I have prayed for them and theirs as well. These people change me a little at a time and probably don’t even know it.

Other people change us as well. Those we work with, those we socialize with, or go to church or maybe even have a beer with in a bar.

 Some people cross our paths but briefly in life and leave their mark on our hearts. It is these people who we never forget, they are a part of us forever, and some probably don’t even know it.

Even the truly negative and hateful people who we come across can change us. There was a guy in my class in high school that was convicted, later in life, as a serial murderer. Another serial killer touched our family when he killed my son’s best friend. More changes in life.

Yesterday, I gave my wife her Christmas gift ……. all she wanted was to see the Broadway musical called “Wicked”. We went yesterday and it was an awesome show. There was one little verse in the final song stuck with me all evening ………


Who can say if I’ve been
Changed for the better.
But, because I knew you,
Because I knew you,
I have been changed.


So, if this is true, and I do believe it to be ……. if we’ve ever met, if I’ve read or heard your words, if our paths have crossed, you have touched my life, and I have been changed.

And, I believe the changes have been positive. I’ve learned from the negative, but I have embraced the positive.

Life changes, we change, change is inevitable …… embrace it, love it.

I’m certainly no longer the little guy below ~ we change!

Life Changes


About DAP

I am a heart transplant recipient and these are my stories and thoughts. My desire is to assist others pre or post heart transplant in anyway possible. Please feel free to contact me if you have a question.
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