Giving “thanks”, straight from the heart should be the easiest thing in the world. Especially for a heart transplant patient.
Don’t you think?
Often, I am a man of few words, but I can’t simply say, “Thanks for the heart!” It’s way deeper than that, which makes this process so difficult for me.
It’s not that simple. I am approaching my 1,000th day (YES, I count each & EVERY day) of extra life and I have been writing another “thank you” note to send to my donor’s family.
If you aren’t a member of the transplant community, you could wonder why this can be so difficult. Well, to keep the process anonymous, there are some strict guidelines of what can or can’t be in any communication between the donor (or family) and the recipient. We are placed in a box and can’t really open up and pour all of our “heart & soul” into our communications.
It’s NOT easy to write to a family that lost a loved one! I try put myself in their shoes. It’s an emotional, gut wrenching process for me. The tears flow often. I get agitated at myself.
My first “thank you” letter, I wrote over 200 times and finally said, “Enough!!” and sent it through my transplant team. This time, I haven’t counted the re-writes, but it’s suffice to say there have been many.
Regardless, I am going to let this family know that I am thinking of them and that I honor my donor daily in my actions, thoughts and prayers!
I hope God blesses my donor family, daily!