Giving Thanks

Giving “thanks”, straight from the heart should be the easiest thing in the world. Especially for a heart transplant patient.

Don’t you think?

Often, I am a man of few words, but I can’t simply say, “Thanks for the heart!” It’s way deeper than that, which makes this process so difficult for me.

It’s not that simple. I am approaching my 1,000th day (YES, I count each & EVERY day) of extra life and I have been writing another “thank you” note to send to my donor’s family.

If you aren’t a member of the transplant community, you could wonder why this can be so difficult. Well, to keep the process anonymous, there are some strict guidelines of what can or can’t be in any communication between the donor (or family) and the recipient. We are placed in a box and can’t really open up and pour all of our “heart & soul” into our communications.

It’s NOT easy to write to a family that lost a loved one! I try put myself in their shoes. It’s an emotional, gut wrenching process for me. The tears flow often. I get agitated at myself.

My first “thank you” letter, I wrote over 200 times and finally said, “Enough!!” and sent it through my transplant team. This time, I haven’t counted the re-writes, but it’s suffice to say there have been many.

Regardless, I am going to let this family know that I am thinking of them and that I honor my donor daily in my actions,  thoughts and prayers!

I hope God blesses my donor family, daily!

Give Thanks!!

About DAP

I am a heart transplant recipient and these are my stories and thoughts. My desire is to assist others pre or post heart transplant in anyway possible. Please feel free to contact me if you have a question.
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6 Responses to Giving Thanks

  1. deb says:

    As part of a family of a donor, all we really want to hear is thanks. It doesn’t have to be fancy words or anything elaborate. When we were waiting to hear that thank you, i told the rest of the family about you having trouble composing that letter and that that might be why we haven’t received one. Their response was just a simple thank you is all that wanted. Since that time we have received that thank you letter and it was awesome. It raised some other unexpected feelings but it was good to know. I have a tattoo on my wrist that says “and his heart beats on” and thats really important to us. I hope this wasnt a rambling on letter but i wanted to let you know how one family feels about it.

  2. my2ndheartbeat says:

    Deb ~ THANK YOU!!!!

    Your input has helped me a bunch! Through my tears, I can see some clarity.

    Thank you for your family’s donation, it is the ULTIMATE gift that anyone can give.

    This will be my 2nd letter to my donor family. There has not been a single day that has gone by since I was conscious after my transplant that I haven’t given thanks!

    Thank you and God bless your family, God bless your loved one.

  3. deb says:

    now i have the tears. it means alot to read that you appreciate it everyday. it was actually an easy decision at a very difficult time. it was the only good to come out of the situation. i would say the only downside is the mom of the donor feels in her heart that she should know where his heart is, that she should “know” this person. its still pretty fresh, just six months, so i am sure there will be other feelings arise. i started searching this topic about a month ago and was very happy to find your blog. i am more than thrilled that you are doing well!

  4. my2ndheartbeat says:

    Deb, The way I look at it, is my donor, is my life. I don’t want to impose, but I’d be honored if you could read my thank you note. Totally up to you, drop me a line at

  5. Pingback: 1,000 Extra Days, a Million Thanks « My2ndheartbeat

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