45 Lessons of Life

I ran across the below article and I think it will help me in life little series about “Life’s Lessons”.

Regina Brett is a columnist for The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio. She wrote this a few years ago and then republished when she turned 50 years old (not 90 as reported in some places!). Regina said “To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written.”

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood… But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

I have learned MANY of the lessons that she mentioned above. Today, I want to write about #4 ~ “Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick, your friends and family will. Stay in touch.”

When I had my heart attack and subsequent heart transplant, I truly learned this lesson. At that point in my life I had worked for the company for almost 38 years. While the corporation took care of me via insurance and other financial support, the people who make up that corporation were a totally different topic. Once I became sick I found out who my true friends were and who was simply a part of the working machine that couldn’t care less about you. It was obvious by the contacts made, or not, as the case  might be, as I was recuperating in the hospital and at home after my release.

One contact that stands out in my mind to this day was an email from a co-worker that simply stated, “Hey man, if you aren’t coming back can I have your laptop?” No hello, no good-bye, no “how are you doing?”

The irony in that question made me laugh and also made me think. It wasn’t a painful lesson, but it was a reminder to hold your family and friends close as all others only want your laptop or ______________ (fill in the blank).

Lesson ~ Jobs pay the bills!! Family and friends take care of you!!


About DAP

I am a heart transplant recipient and these are my stories and thoughts. My desire is to assist others pre or post heart transplant in anyway possible. Please feel free to contact me if you have a question.
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2 Responses to 45 Lessons of Life

  1. Pingback: Life’s Lessons – Our Inner Battles « My2ndheartbeat

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