Five Years ~ Giving Thanks to My Donor Family


Today is a bittersweet day for me. I celebrate five extra years of life and at the same time I grieve for my donor and pray for my donor’s family.

I recently sent the below letter to my donor family. For me, it’s important that they know they I am forever thankful for this amazing gift I’ve been given and that I think and pray for their loved one each and EVERY day!

The song that is referenced below is “Between Your Heart and Mine”, and was written by Gregory Todd. I wrote a post about the song which you can read here …… “Between Your Heart and Mine“.

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“I would thank you from the bottom of my heart, but for you my heart has no bottom. So I will thank you with ALL of my heart!”

To my loving donor family,

These letters and thank you’s have to be difficult to read, as they are very difficult to write. I’ve been working on this for weeks and the words don’t flow as easily as my tears do. However, I am writing once again to thank you.

Not only do I thank you with ALL of my borrowed heart, but to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers daily. Each day, every day.

Life continues to be filled with helping others on their transplant journey, my wife, son and two grand kiddos, and being eternally grateful for this good, caring, kind heart that my donor loaned to me.

My family is my rock and my 2 kiddos kids continue to bless me each and every day. Even at their young ages of 6 and 4, they are very aware of my borrowed heart, and they give thanks to you in their way as does the rest of my family. They ask me all the time, “How is your heart, Papa?”

All of my efforts, volunteering and my giving are all done with your loved one in my mind. I know I’m doing something that this kind, caring heart would be happy to see me accomplish. Helping others in need, at the worst times or their lives, giving them some hope, just as you’re loved one gave me. This heart came from a hero, from an angel.

I start each day with my donor on my mind and I end the day the same way.

The closeness I feel with you is astonishing. Recently I was speaking with an acquaintance who asked about my transplant and if I knew my donor. As I spoke about my donor, I got a little misty eyed. Or, as my grand son says, my eyes got all “sweaty”. This person asked me if I was “OK”, and I simply said, “You have no idea how grateful I am to my donor and his or her family.”

I admit I am not a talented writer, but I would like to share the lyrics of a song that was recently brought to my attention. This song has become very dear to me. I love music, even though I’m not talented musically, but this song has stayed with me since the first time I heard it. It does not really mirror my transplant journey, but parts of it are extremely touching to me and the way I feel about my donor and you, my donor family. This song was written by a man for his friend that had a heart transplant and his friend’s heart donor. I listen to it daily….. It’s simply incredible and very touching. (The highlighted sections have great meaning to me)

I end this with the most sincere gratefulness and gratitude, from ALL of my heart to yours.

Many hugs and continued gratitude,  

D & family

 

 “Between Your Heart and Mine”

As the doctors took their places
I could see my kids and wife
Blowing kisses for good luck, not goodbye
 
Seven months with just one question
Then you answered with your life
You had one foot crossing heaven
I was one small breath behind
 
But you saved me when you gave me
The miracle I needed to survive
Now we both can go on
Between your heart and mine
 
Between your heart and mine
I’ll live a life worth living
I’ll take what I’ve been given
And pass it down the line
 
I‘ll cherish every moment
Then breathe it in and hold in for the rest of my life
Between your heart and mine
 
I heard what happened late that night
Drinker driving through the light
He drove your hopes and dreams right to the ground
 
Just seventeen, you went too soon
But on my life I swear to you
Each morning when I wake up, I’ll make sure you’re smiling down
Cause you saved me when you gave me
The miracle I needed now it’s beating deep inside
So we both can go on
Between your heart and mine
 
I’ve been praying for your family
Hoping one day comes around
When I can let them know their boy is safe and sound
Between your heart and mine
 
And that I’ll live a life worth living
I’ll take what I’ve been given and pass it down the line
I’ll cherish every moment
Then breathe it in and hold it for the rest of my life
I’ll keep this feeling for the rest of my life
Between your heart and mine

About DAP

I am a heart transplant recipient and these are my stories and thoughts. My desire is to assist others pre or post heart transplant in anyway possible. Please feel free to contact me if you have a question.
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